Death and The Present

To whom can relate,

As the 10-year anniversary of my father’s death approaches, I can’t help but think of how death impacts people’s lives. The grieving process is different for everyone, but it shouldn’t be. Death is taboo in our society, but it shouldn’t be. It’s a release from our earthly bodies. This thing called life is temporary, and that encompasses everything. Your car, your house, your children, your spouse, your memories, and even your work, all temporary. To me, grieving is fine shortly after a death, but we must move onto our present lives immediately. Those folks that have moved on have taught us everything we needed, now we must use those lessons to prepare our future selves and influence those around us. The more we dwell we allow ourselves to lose sight and attention to those alive around us. I’ve seen it time and time again, a family crumbles not because of the death, but because they focus too much on the death. They allow the deceased to come back to life and use them as blame. The blame can be both positive or negative. We mustn’t allow ourselves to keep our loved ones “alive.”

This all sounds very harsh and cold, but I can assure you that is necessary. Our next generation needs to always surpass us. Regression means that we allowed our ancestors mistakes and lessons to be ignored. I write this as to give reality the light it deserves. The past was a lesson and the future must be ambitious, but the present is where you are.